When most parents face the holiday season, they imagine themselves busily shopping, cooking, cleaning for guest visits, and of course, doing whatever is necessary to make their childrens' Christmas special. Adults are so used to being busy and stressed, during the holidays, that they forget that their kids may want to be a part of all the preparations, too. But even as they plan their strategy for surviving the busiest time of year, most parents forget to actively include their children in the preparations that make the holiday events what they are. Kids want to be contributing family members, and help out, in whatever ways they can. Parents need to remember to include their children in all aspects of their holiday activities. Christmas shopping is one activity parents often try to avoid with children, especially young children. Too much frenzy, too much traffic, too many people. But kids can learn valuable lessons by Christmas shopping with their parents. Like, the fact that we often help Santa Claus, by giving gifts to other family members. Kids can learn, during Christmas shopping trips, the relationship between giving and loving, especially among family members. By observing Mom or Dad, as they shop for the family, children can discover the joy of finding gifts with real meaning, gifts that will make a statement about love. Then, having learned that lesson, when a child has spent time and effort considering and choosing the perfect gifts for Mom and Dad, there's even more to look forward to on Christmas morning, than what Santa left under the tree. Kids can be a great help, during the holidays, when it's time to decorate the family home. They love the sights and the smells and the dazzling displays that all the decorations can provide. And children love to place their own stamp on the decorations and make some of the decorating decisions, whether it's choosing where to hang a strand of lights, or making paper snowflakes to hang from the ceiling. Children need to feel the sense of family closeness and belonging that's part of the magic of Christmas. Participating, with the family, in the activities of the holiday season, even the preparation for those activities, enhances every child's enjoyment of this special time of year.