Thoughtful Grandparenting At Christmas

Most adults enjoy the Christmas season, each year, with its holiday foods, the special concerts and plays and pageants, and of course, all the holiday parties. But as much fun as the holidays promise each year, the joy that adults feel is multiplied tenfold when they become parents and can celebrate Christmas with their children. The family holiday gathering is one of our most common traditions, a time when the extended family of aunts and uncles and cousins get together to celebrate not just the holidays, but their shared love and fellowship. It's also the time when young parents introduce the newest family members to the rest of the brood. But with families so spread out, today, it's becoming more and more difficult for families to engage in this treasured custom. No matter how far apart from each other families may live, today, young parents can be sure that there's one custom that will never change-the insistence by grandparents that they have to see their grandkids at Christmas. It's a custom that every grandparent seems to engage in, every holiday season. Even the most intelligent and aware and considerate grandparents seem to ignore the fact that air travel, these days, is more difficult than ever, for everyone. And it's not easy for two-career couples to find the time to travel to grandma's house, together, with the kids. It's no fun for any family to be pressured into spending time and money on travel, at Christmas, and it's even worse for families who have to travel with young children. By the time a family with tired toddlers has been through several crowded airports, and sat crammed into several planes, none of them are in a mood to enjoy the holiday. Rather than applying the kind of guilt that only they can apply, and making Christmas difficult for their childrens' families, grandparents should consider making the holidays as easy as possible for everyone concerned. A couple without children can travel for less money and with less hassle than their children, with their own young children, can. Grandma and Grandpa can stay in a motel, too, near their grandchildren, without making anyone lose their own bedroom. Many grandparents find that it's easier to visit their children and grandchildren a few days prior to Christmas, when it's easier and cheaper to travel, and when the families being visited aren't as rushed as they are on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Then, many older couples find, they can schedule their own holiday time, at a resort or hotel, in a quiet destination, when great prices can be found. This way, everyone gets to enjoy a peaceful and guilt-free Christmas.